I went to surprise my husband at the hospital with his lunch. His colleague looked at me with tears in his eyes and said: “He hasn’t told you anything, has he?”

lied to a woman who had stood up at a fundraiser and told three hundred people exactly which husband she was proud of. 

If somebody you love is carrying something and will not put it down —

look at what you have told them you admire about them.

Because that is usually the shape of the thing they cannot let you see them drop.

I called him a man who saves people. For eleven years, in that voice, in front of anybody who would listen.

So when he stopped being one, there was no version of him left that he thought I would have.