Most importantly, people should feel free to change an arrangement when circumstances become unsafe or unmanageable, while respecting applicable legal obligations.
If a guest becomes threatening, refuses to respect important boundaries, or makes someone feel unsafe, seeking advice from appropriate professionals or local authorities may be necessary.
Boundaries do not eliminate every risk, but they can help people offer assistance in a more deliberate and sustainable way.
## The Emotional Consequences of Exploited Generosity
When someone believes that their kindness has been used against them, the emotional consequences can be substantial.
The immediate reaction may be disbelief. A person may struggle to reconcile the individual they thought they were helping with the behavior now being alleged.
Anger may follow, particularly if the person feels that their safety, possessions, or peace of mind have been compromised.
Some people also experience guilt. They may repeatedly revisit the decision to help, wondering whether a different choice would have prevented the situation.
